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Introduction
Let’s be real—leaving your child with a sitter for the first (or even fiftieth) time can tug at your heartstrings. But one of the best ways to ease the transition for both you and your child? Preparation. Reviewing a few key things with your little one before the sitter walks through the door can make the whole experience smoother and more comfortable for everyone involved.
This guide breaks down 11 essential things to review with your child before a sitter arrives, plus how to reinforce those lessons so your child feels secure and informed. You’ll also find handy internal resources to help you through every phase of childcare planning.
Why Preparing Your Child Matters
Building Trust and Comfort
Kids thrive on routine and predictability. When they know what to expect, they feel safe. Talking things through ahead of time builds trust in both the sitter and the experience.
Minimizing Anxiety and Emotional Disruption
Children, especially younger ones, can struggle with separation. Discussing the sitter’s visit can reduce tears and tantrums, setting a positive tone.
1. Who the Sitter Is
Sharing the Sitter’s Name and Face
Introduce your child to the sitter beforehand if possible. If not, show a photo or video. Let them know, “This is Alex, and they’ll be with you while I’m out.”
Talking About the Sitter’s Role
Explain that the sitter is there to keep them safe, help with fun activities, and ensure they’re happy until you return.
Need tips? Check out our guide to sitter selection.
2. When You’ll Be Back
Giving Specific Time Frames
Saying “I’ll be back after your bedtime story” is more comforting than “I’ll be home later.”
Reassuring Your Return
Reinforce that you always come back. It builds your child’s emotional resilience.
Explore emotional tips at child emotions.
3. House Rules and Routines
Explaining Do’s and Don’ts
Let your child know which behaviors are expected, like cleaning up toys, and which are not, like jumping on furniture.
Daily Habits to Stick To
Kids feel grounded when daily habits like brushing teeth or reading a story are maintained.
4. Food and Snack Preferences
Allergies and Restrictions
Review any allergies or dietary restrictions. This keeps your child safe and helps the sitter plan.
Favorite Snacks
Let your child know that their favorite snack (if allowed) will be available. It’s a great icebreaker.
5. Emergency Contact Info
Where It’s Located
Your child should know where emergency numbers are (like on the fridge or posted on the wall).
When to Use It
Discuss that the sitter is responsible for emergencies but that your child can always ask for help.
Explore safety insights on reviews and safety.
6. Safe and Off-Limit Areas
Boundaries for Exploration
Point out which areas they can freely use and which are off-limits—like garages, basements, or tool sheds.
Staying Safe Indoors and Outdoors
If they’ll be outside, talk about staying in the backyard or near the sitter.
More tips at child safety.
7. What to Do If They Feel Scared
Calming Techniques
Show them how to breathe slowly or hug a comfort toy.
Talking to the Sitter or Calling You
Let them know it’s okay to tell the sitter if they’re feeling upset.
Need support tips? Visit emotional support.
8. Their Bedtime Routine
Comfort Items and Rituals
Whether it’s a special teddy or a lullaby, let the sitter know, and remind your child those will still happen.
Preparing for Sleep
Let your child know bedtime will still feel familiar, even without you.
9. Special Toys or Items to Keep Close
Comfort Objects
Label favorite stuffed animals or blankets so they don’t go missing.
Where to Find Them
Tell your child and the sitter where those comfort items are stored.
10. Screen Time Rules
Limits and Expectations
Let your child know how long they can watch TV or play games and what shows are okay.
Educational Content Only?
If you want to stick to educational programs, be specific.
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11. Good Behavior Expectations
Encouraging Kindness and Respect
Encourage your child to treat the sitter as they would a teacher—respectfully and kindly.
What Happens with Poor Behavior
Clarify age-appropriate consequences, like taking a break or losing screen time.
How to Reinforce These Lessons Over Time
Practice with Role-Play
Act out a sitter visit with stuffed animals or during pretend play.
Using Storytelling and Books
Read books about babysitting experiences to build positive associations.
Check out parenting resources at parenting help.
Conclusion
A little preparation can make a big difference. By walking through these 11 talking points, you not only reassure your child but also set your sitter up for success. Parenting isn’t about perfection—it’s about being present, even when you’re not physically there. With the right prep and resources like Capitol Childcare, you’ve got this.
FAQs
1. What’s the best age to start leaving kids with a sitter?
It depends on your child’s maturity and comfort level, but many start short periods around ages 2-3.
2. How do I prepare my child for a new sitter?
Introduce the sitter in advance, go over routines, and be transparent about your plans.
3. Should I let my child choose the sitter?
You can involve them in the process by letting them meet and interact, but final decisions should be adult-led.
4. What should I do if my child refuses to stay with a sitter?
Start slow, practice separations, and offer reassurances. Using tips from child readiness can help.
5. Are last-minute sitters safe to use?
With proper vetting and using trusted platforms like backup sitter, yes.
6. Should sitters know about emergency plans?
Absolutely. Always walk them through your emergency plan.
7. How can I tell if a sitter did a good job?
Ask your child open-ended questions and check in with the sitter. Look for signs of comfort and engagement.
Looking for more expert parenting and sitter advice? Dive deeper into Capitol Childcare’s blog!